feat(alerts): alert email waits 2 minutes in the outbox and each alert records its outcome (#5507)

#5507 "Alert emails through the outbox, gathered for 2 minutes"
(milestone 501). Replaces the in-memory core/alert_burst.py.

- outbox.hold_alert: an alert joins each recipient's held alert email, or
  opens one due 2 minutes later (System 156 ruling). A Postgres advisory
  lock keeps two alerts at once from opening two windows for one reader.
- email_outbox_events.alert_json (migration 0043) keeps the alert as it
  fired, so the email written when the window closes says what it said.
- write_held writes it then, in the reader's zone: the usual alert email
  for one alert, the list for several (outbox.alert_words).
- after_settle records on each AlertEvent, once every email carrying it
  has settled: email_sent, or email_error naming each reader it didn't
  reach and the server's reason.
- A held email survives a restart and goes out when its window closes.
- A refusal of a message's one recipient no longer repeats the address.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

steward/core/mail.py

@@ -252,7 +252,7 @@ def alert_email(cfg: dict, alert: dict, to: Recipient) -> tuple[str, str, str]:
 
 def burst_email(cfg: dict, alerts: list[dict], to: Recipient) -> tuple[str, str, str]:
     """(subject, text, html) for several alerts that arrived together
-    (core.alert_burst, #5465): how many and what they came to in the subject,
+    (core.outbox.alert_words, #5465): how many and what they came to in the subject,
     then each alert's headline, rule and time, oldest first, in the
     recipient's zone."""
     from collections import Counter